D-IGNITE-Y

 

Few men desire liberty ,most men only wish for a just master- Sallust

Dignity is central to shaping the destiny of an individual.It starts long before one can possibly imagine.If you desire to finish off a person without creating drama,steal his dignity.

Before i formed you in the womb i knew you,before you were born i set you apart,i appointed you as a prophet to the nations-Jeremiah 1:5

Well,why is there too much heated debate on the issue of abortion? Is it not because we question whether the unborn deserves dignified treatment? is the foetus its own person or part of the mother?Is one of the questions that spurs about the debate.

Even after the cut of the umbilical cord,the desire to possess and own the infant is overwhelming. It is our baby!mine ,ours ,whichever.Somehow ,mothers seem to neglect their own lives and live in their babes.The fathers on the other hand are busy sacrificing themselves in the name of the child and family.These desire for intimacy with the child is so profound that I somewhat consider it very wicked indeed. Psychologists tell us much of our personality make up is developed in our early childhood.I think this is both a good and scary matter all together.

Common sense psychiatrist David Viscott notes in his book RISKING that"an unhappy parent is is the child is the child's burden." I cannot agree more. The fears of one person are highly contagious so much that I dare say that if GOD never gives us the spirit of fear,them our fear is inherited from our parental figures. Children should be given dignified treatment as people of their own right.unless they are the sickness from deficiency of dignity will pursue them all over their life and overtake them.

DIGNITY DEFICIENT DISEASES
1.CONDITIONAL LOVE-This is not love at all. This creates a life where a child or a person lives in constant fear of rejection. We all fear rejection and losing the love of people we look up to love us be it at home,school or at the work place.
Most problems that people have in their careers stem from the fact that their parents chose for them the course they did in college.This might have been decided upon directly or secretly influenced by the fear of offending the parents and losing their love.
This breeds a sense of helplessness and the trouble of indecision.If we are to grow and embrace important changes in our lives we have to learn to fight for our own love first.That we love ourselves and be our own people without the need to offer apology to anyone.
Unless we love our selves,we cannot love others,but will be dependent on them.we will desire to possess them and they will cringe as they cannot find any healthy person in us to love .

2.SEEKING FULFILLMENT IN OTHERS
This problem begins when the parent figure pressures his child to perform .This may be verbal or non verbal. The child mostly wants to be like the parent and this may be the source of non verbal pressure.Seeking to shape ones destiny in this way may sound to be a good idea,but it always leads to death.In our competitive society it this methodology offers no IDENTITY CONFIRMATION but poses the birth of an  IDENTITY CRISIS.It becomes increasingly difficult for one to ascertain whether he is good better or best. This is the phenomenon that the experts will call issues of self esteem.
In order to be healthy individuals,we need to step up,take our risks,answer our questions and conduct our own experiments and keep learning as ourselves.Only then can we enjoy life long learning.

3.OBSESSION WITH CONTROLS
Do you think you must be in control for things to work around in your world?
The problem with controlling behavior is that, not allowing yourself to be free passes on the burden to others , You will want to infect other people by controlling their behavior.This behavior is hard to give up because it is usually done in good faith. You sacrifice for their good,is that not the case? You are taking care of them by monitoring that they don't touch germs by soiling their hands or that they don't get heart breaks by choosing their mate for them!
Compliance and controls seem to be doing good in the short run but have deadly effects in the long-run.They kill creativity and ability to take initiative.If your neighbor is not taking initiative he cant tap and maximize his resourcefulness.If one is not resourceful,he cannot contribute. If he is not contributing he cannot be motivated.misery will embrace you like a bandit and poverty will be your next of kin.

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